like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women

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    17 days ago

    As this is a female-only community, quoting a female coworker I coincidentally discussed this with today:

    “I used to change my behaviour sometimes because I was told it could be interpreted as fancying the male I’m talking to. Now I realize that’s not a my problem but a they problem. I talk to whoever, however, and if they ask me out I just say no.”

    “Voila, it’s all about communication.”

    “Exactly.”