So I moved back to my city after 7 years where my family lives.
It’s been 2 years but I never really enjoyed people here. Mostly people I met were from my previous circles, family, school friends and their partners.
I always thought something was off and maybe over time I will figure things out but it was just not happening.
Yesterday I went to dinner with my partners friends and damn it was whole different vibe. As if it’s a different culture. I really enjoyed talking and was genuinely interested in next meeting.
Resparked my joy in meeting people and I guess I was with wrong people and there are people who are out there who vibe match with me but it’s so hard to find them.
that’s not how sex works though. people dont’ want to be friends with people they want to fuck, and they dont’ want to fuck people they are friends with.
and a romantic relationship requires the desire to fuck. so that’s why people focus on that first and foremost.
I only read the abstract, but that appears to not be the case, and a majority of relationships start as friendships: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8892041/