Wendy_Pleakley [he/him, they/them]

  • 0 Posts
  • 20 Comments
Joined 2 months ago
cake
Cake day: July 29th, 2024

help-circle




  • I wish I could just shut off my pattern recognition. Truly. It’s easy once a thing happens a couple of times for that to be the new standard. Now everyone is this intimidating person that is obviously never going to text me. If I could observe that people are easy to talk to and that sending a text won’t cause my skin to disintegrate, I feel like I could change my mindset.

    Unfortunately she wasn’t a shy girl, I was the shy one. I felt like I was taking a risk any time I tried speaking up. I had to be so brave to approach her. And she’d go screw one of these confident guys who is just straight up a prick (not even nice-guying, I had a bad vibe about one guy from the get go and nobody believed me because he was popular, then things between them fell apart WOW WHO GUESSED) and act like we never had any sort of connection.

    But like, the fact that I’m sitting here sad about it (and I’m not even straight anymore) YEARS later and don’t know how to move on. People will just let you stay stuck. It’s fucking crazy.


  • I was in school and had a crush on this woman. I thought we hit it off, she was super fun and bubbly around me when we first met. We had several classes together so I saw her all the time.

    development

    I would text her like every day. She’d respond usually, but her responses after a month or so started getting delayed and less enthusiastic. She kinda started acting cold.

    Also she slept with multiple guys during this, and like never bothered to say she wasn’t interested in me. We went on a date! I genuinely thought I had a chance, still.

    COVID happened and I had to leave school for multiple reasons. I opened up to her about struggling with depression and all of it and she said she was there for me. She pretty much never texted me first at this point, it was just me reaching out.

    I asked her once if she could call me to check in. She did not. I never knew how to tell her how much that hurt. Because she was one of two college friends I stayed in touch with, and the other person also chose distance.

    So texting feels broken because I do not trust anybody to respond to me. It sucks.