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  • I was threatened by local leaders and family if I didn’t go on a 2 year mission in another country, then when I got there, they:

    • took my passport immediately and locked it in a building I couldn’t access
    • required 12 to 16 hours of work a day, with discipline if productivity dropped
    • refused to provide adequate food or medical care
    • restricted my communication with my family
    • assigned me a companion to surveil me 24/7 and report disobedience to leadership (and assigned me to surveil someone else)
    • disciplined me when I was physically and sexually assaulted by other missionaries

    I didn’t want to call it trafficking for a long time. I figured maybe God just had a weird way of doing things. But my spouse works at a recovery center for survivors of violence (including trafficking) and helped me realize that’s what it was.

    A pretty big misconception is that trafficking has to look like selling slaves, and I agree that’s an egregious thing, but it can be a lot more broad than that.

    There are a lot of resources at https://humantraffickinghotline.org/en if you’re curious. My mission experience checked just about every box for labor trafficking, and I’ve heard very similar stories from a lot of other people who have been missionaries.





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    3 months ago

    I don’t know about usual, but there is a huge wall between private/ personal and public/ professional for me. Nothing personal ends up under my own name if I can help it. Basically, I’m using my name as if it were the name of a business, and I use an alias or nickname otherwise.









  • It’s more that I’m just giving my mom a bit of time to deal with a big crisis in her life before I rip the bandaid off and go mostly no-contact with my dad. He really weaponizes my mom’s emotions, so I’m doing this more for her than for him.

    But yeah, he’s a classic narcissistic parent. If I actually told him how I felt, he would spend the rest of his life being the victim.








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