I mean, there are dozens of rational and polite comments in this thread, and you’re choosing this one comment to ‘cement your opinion’. I’m a techie, but I don’t know if I’m one of those weird people you talk about, or just a normal person you want. I have noticed less hostility in the comments, and the hostile ones like this one stand out because the friendly ones are most prevalent. I also have been seeing more and more of the text based communities gain traction over the past week with more normal people stories, and hope they gain even more traction in the coming days.

As for Reddit, I have been occasionally visiting some of my niche communities that haven’t migrated over, but have decided not to participate in anything there. I have also noticed that the Reddit front page is now a lot similar to Lemmy, that I often can’t tell if I’m on Reddit or Lemmy. I saw a post there today about some guy playing a song on piano for 3 girls, and the top 10 comments with thousands of upvotes were all the same old Reddit tropes of panties down, floor wet, leave some pussy for us, and so on. I’m noticing them more and more because of how different the comment section on Lemmy is.

You don’t have to feel bad about staying here or visiting Reddit or doing them both at the same time. You have no obligation for either site.

Reddit is somewhat known for being unwelcoming as well though?

For myself, honestly no I don’t miss it at all. But mostly b/c I’ll stay with Reddit, after a month’s hiatus for protest, and probably only check it once a week for an hour rather than multiple times a day as before. There’s a particular gaming community over there that doesn’t post much content here yet, and even while I’m trying to help do my part there, I still want to be informed… which means at least reading Reddit (probably via Teddit to deprive them of traffic). I’m also on Squabbles too. Some people also are saying that kbin.social is more welcoming than most Lemmy servers, especially sh.itjust.works - I don’t know about that b/c wouldn’t you see mostly the same content b/c of federation? - but in any case it could be a thought to try different instances, maybe especially smaller ones.

It depends on what you wanted it for tbh. If you can stand to be on Reddit, then go for it? Maybe also stay here too, if you like certain parts of it, and get the best of both worlds. You can’t force people to be welcoming, you can only find places where they hang out and then you hang out there too. Squabbles is fairly welcoming - it’s being described right now as something like toxically non-toxic, as in activist-level hunting down of toxic personality traits, I can’t really explain it but check it out if you are interested:-).

Good luck, and I hope that you find what you need. Also, please remember to use social media responsibly rather than let it use you: it is addictive regardless of what platform you find yourself on, and maybe you are awakening to that possibility b/c of the switch, i.e. if you moved back you would find that it was no longer “the same” as it was before, b/c of your new understanding of that fact? If so, hopefully these growing pains lead to something better:-).

Reddit wasn’t welcoming to opinions outside the hivemind either, you just didn’t notice because you were inside it.

You’re basically telling everyone to be nice and pretend these same kinds of people who killed reddit for us won’t kill the fediverse when we have every reason to believe they will, and you don’t want us to talk about it or do anything about it?

I don’t really get why you’re here in the first place. If you liked reddit and don’t hate modern social media why not just stay there? People came here to avoid what meta could do to the fediverse and avoid what reddit became. Why are you acting surprised that people are acting that way?

You gave your opinion and he did as well. I agree with becool, Meta has proven themselves to be an extremely unethical and untrustworthy company throughout the years. I believe it’s in the best interest of the fediverse for instances to distance themselves from Meta. That said, there’s nothing stopping you from using multiple platforms, or working to foster the type of community and culture you want here.

This is still the very early days of the fediverse and it will no doubt change a lot in the coming months and years. If there were things you liked about reddit then try to bring that culture here and you might attract more like minded people.

I don’t think the point is to be welcoming to big tech messing up another platform. Seriously, which big tech platform hasn’t had a scandal around fucking over its users?

I understand the feeling of not having the kind of content you vibe with yet. There’s a lot of stuff on Reddit that I miss too. This is still primarily a Western audience, while Reddit was just starting to get popular in my country.

The insufferable people going on about open source and privacy is the reason we have Lemmy in the first place. If you don’t have strong opinions and a desire to get away from big corporations, why would you make Lemmy in the first place?

The algorithms big tech uses to boost engagement on their platforms is the reason things don’t stay friendly on their platforms. So, it’s fine if they come over but helping extend the reach of big tech over Lemmy is a serious no no.

Think of a union striking. Yes, it could impact your daily life and inconvenience you by making you late to your appointment. But, at the end of the day, they’re fighting for your right to reasonable working conditions just as much they are fighting for theirs. You don’t have to actively support them, just not oppose them for the slight benefit of your present convenience!

For example, the “normal” people are the ones who will complain about jobs going overseas but then not buy American because of minimal price differences! Here’s a link that talks about the case of American Apparel.

The content you’re replying to reminds me of the earlier years of reddit where they think they are superior of mind and basically look down on you.