cross-posted from: https://lemmygrad.ml/post/4657758

Can you find love after 30?

Can a guy who hasn’t had much luck with women until his 30s find love by then or is it already too late for him?

      • Zodiark [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        1 month ago

        Hexbear inside reference/joke.

        When the commenters here say its “easier” in one’s 30s to date, it means that people who are single in their 30s often cut through the romantic anxiety and adolescent ritual of consulting entrails or trying to interpret signs and just express intent of interest directly or their feelings directly. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzDFKJHczQ8

        The new dynamic of people at or older than 30 is that these people have established identities and understandings of themselves - which we call maturity - which strengthens the prospects of relationships instead of a joint venture of people in the process of self-actualization. (People in their 30s are further along this process.). Relationships thrive and function by the accumulation of minor gestures, and it comes down being considerate and consistent.

        If you’re a Millennial, think of Friends’ Ross & Rachel in Season 4 vs Ross & Rachel in Season 10. (Without all the forced dysfunction deemed necessary for the humor of a sitcom.)