• lobut@lemmy.ca
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    5 months ago

    Not depression, but …

    I have a friend with a bit of “resting bitch face”. Someone screamed at her from across the street to “smile and be happy, it’s a great day!”

    She was like, I was happy …

    • pyre@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      that’s just sexism. no one tells men to be happy when they walk around looking like someone shat in their cereal

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        5 months ago

        I am a man. I also have resting b1tch face. I get told to “smile” or “cheer up” on a weekly basis

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        5 months ago

        Uh not correct. Tall angry looking dudes get told all the time to ‘smile’.

        Of course, it’s also aimed at women for sexist reason, I got told to smile so many times as an angry looking dude. Then I’m walking around with my daughter and this full on 30 something grown ass adult man tells her to smile. I could have rage fisted him into the fucking sun at midnight, The pure burning hate that flooded my viens at that moment decreased my life span by 3 years. I could have poured it down his entire being. Instead I told him she’ll do whatever she wants with her face, and he can fuck off.

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            5 months ago

            Yes. but It’s been a few years since it’s happened. Or I stopped noticing/caring. Idk which.

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                  5 months ago

                  how is that being an asshole? you said it happens all the time and when i asked you said it happened years ago. because i can tell you that most women who don’t smile all the time wouldn’t say it’s been years since some stranger felt entitled to tell them to smile. that’s my whole point.

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                    5 months ago

                    You don’t care that I am against the behavior in every case, that I acknowledged women are targets by misogynists and sexists, or that I’ve agreed it’s a lesser problem for me.

                    You don’t care about any of that.

                    You care about playing some childish game where this is a competition on who is treated worse with what frequency so you can scold me for daring to point out the shitty behavior also effects me.

                    That’s not honest. That’s being an asshole.

      • dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        5 months ago

        Elderly old man with a resting bitch face here. People don’t say ‘cheer up’ to me, but have frequently asked my wife why I’m so angry.

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      5 months ago

      In the closet transfem person but as far as everyone is aware I look like a male to people

      I’ve been told to cheer up by a male person in public once so it can happen