I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.
You’re gonna get sampling bias from the responses here. I guess you should ask why you care about asking this question. If you always liked apples but all of a sudden there’s a type of orange you like, would you question why you like this orange, or would you just accept that you like this type of orange, or maybe you like both apples and oranges. If you both you like each other, and want something then that’s all that should matter.
Romantic attraction and sexual attraction can often be different. It’s just society says you can’t have sex with people you aren’t romantically involved with, and once you’re romantically involved with someone, you can’t have sex with others. That’s totally unfair IMHO. You should be able to have a romantic relationship with someone and not expect sex and then be able to have sex with others who are interested in sex. This is why asexual people have a hard time with monogamy and have to pretend to be into sex because otherwise they can’t have a relationship with someone they love.
Not me. Everyone else though. In the land of rednecks,that is the lot of the intellectual
Who cares? If you like him, and he likes you, go have some fun. If you like it with him, do it again with him. If you like it in general, do it again with other guys as well.
If you don’t like it, don’t do it again, wt least until the next time you feel curious
Don’t let weirdo’s dictate.thst you can’t have fun with being curious, don’t feel the need to label everything
Yes I’ve seen Jason Mamoa.
I think that in reality, every human can relate to this post. Straight, gay, bi, asexual. You meet a person that makes you go “what the fuck is happening?”.
My opinion is that it doesn’t really mean (or necessarily equate) that you want to have sex with the person. For myself, I consider myself to be heterosexual although I wish I was bisexual. I do however consider myself to be biromantic, and could very well see myself in a relationship with someone of the same gender. The difference is that when I’ve envisioned or been close to trying the sex part, I get actually physically nautious. Not to say “gays make me sick” but, uh 😂😂 Me personally having gay sex makes me sick.
Adults fuck whatever they want.
“Sexual identity” is for children who need to get out more.
Sexual identity is simply a descriptor of the type of adults you generally go for. It is a quick way to explain to another person what you are into. It’s not really necessary to explicitly label, but it can be helpful.
It’s not prescriptive, it’s descriptive.
It’s taking a step back and looking at your self critically, like an art piece. Who am I? How might others see me? How might I communicate myself to others? Am I living authentically to me? OP is noticing new details that is making them reconsider their own ego. That’s all normal human connection and philosophy. Thinking isn’t childish, lol.
Adults can fuck whatever they want with consent
Adults fuck whatever they want.
There’s limits
I picture an old man with a really scraggly beard laying on a couch with a beer in one hand, cigarette in the other saying this lol
Yea I pretty much threw away labels because it got to be a pain in the ass to try and say anything when I always end up going into that description “I’m just attracted to femininity”.
Binary gender is such bullshit. Nobody is attracted to every man or every woman. It’s totally normal to be attracted to people who fall into both buckets if that’s your only way of categorizing people. Because that’s not how attraction or sexuality work. It’s so much richer and more nuanced than that.
I am straight as a board, to my despair. Women are so beautiful and in general hold up better as we get older, it would be so lovely to know I could switch teams if my husband died or we divorced, my kids say I should date women next time if there is a next time but alas, I’ve tried and there is nothing. It’s men for me.
I would argue that being attracted to individuals regardless of their gender is the most natural and reasonable sexuality there is, though. I think of bisexuality or pansexuality as the default setting for humans - we don’t have a mating season or anything, we use sexuality for all sorts of non- reproductive reasons. My kids were raised with no pressure to be straight or not, 3/4 of them are queer, 2 of those lean gay one leans hetero, but as preference not orientation if that makes sense. One is as straight as I am, it’s an orientation.
Yep. Thought I was straight until my 30s and saw a picture that made me feel things about men that I usually felt about women. Turns out I’m not that picky about gender but women get a +5. (which means, even if I wasn’t married, the guys I’m attracted to are wayyyyyy outta my league.)
I’ve thought a couple different guys were hot, but the idea of actually having sex with them still doesn’t do it for me. Ah well, life is confusing sometimes.
It could be a romantic however not necessarily a sexual attraction (aesthetic attractions also exist). I’m asexual, but still have romantic and aesthetic attractions to people.
I am straight, but my social media habits put me into a lot of contact with memes from gay, lesbian, pan, and everything else under the sun. A lot of it seems relatable, even if I never experience those same feelings IRL with real people. Definitely makes me question my sexuality semi regularly, lol.
Best advice I ever got regarding this kind of things: Try it out and see where it goes! Play open, be honest and have fun! ;-)
