• shalafi@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I want to say y’all are paranoid. But.

    My wife came home one night, hammered. OK. Fuck me, she drove home?! Not proud to say, but we drank and drove a lot in those days, got a hotel or cab if we were smashed.

    Next day she doesn’t remember a thing but having a second drink at the bar with the girls. Nothing else. C’mon! Could hardly believe it, chewed her out for driving drunk, she insisted she only had 2 or 3 drinks. Bullshit. Takes more than a couple of drinks for us to black out. Hell, we never got that drunk.

    She got to talking to her friends that were regulars at that bar. Regulars who had the same bar tender. Same exact experiences. You add it up.

    She wouldn’t report it. Because what are you going to report exactly?

    Having said all this, that’s my only story on the subject. And I’ve done a lot of sketchy shit, ran with sketchy people. Date rape drugs are not as common as you might think. But they are indeed a thing.

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      Oh, it’s surprisingly common. There are even occasional bursts of people cutting out the middle-person and going for directly injecting people on the dance floor

      It’s scary out there

      (and don’t drive drunk kids; you’re risking innocent lives because you’re too cheap to get a cab. Not a good look)

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      “Date drugs” are super common and easy to buy. Psychopaths that actually use them on unconsenting people, fortunately not very common. But common enough thst I would never leave my drink unattended.

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      Could hardly believe it, chewed her out for driving drunk, she insisted she only had 2 or 3 drinks

      Only? You shouldn’t drive if you have had any drinks.

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    Serious answer: Anyone who identifies as one.

    I literally can’t pin it down more than that as there are exceptions to every rule. Same goes for a man.

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      No. While people have the freedom to call themselves whatever they want, I also reserve my own freedom to call them whatever the f*** I want. It works both ways. At least it should.

      • ᴇᴍᴘᴇʀᴏʀ 帝@feddit.uk
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        19 hours ago

        Ultimately, it’s a courtesy. Like finding out if the James you just met prefers James, Jim, Jimmy, Jimbo, their middle name or a completely different one because the uncle they hate was also a James. We do this in various parts of our dealings with people, it’s part of the oil that greases the wheels of human interaction. You can chose to be discourteous but you may well find people chose to not have anything to do with you.

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        You can call anyone what you want. You have that freedom like anyone else. Like everyone else you can be considered a extremely rude and not nice if you dead name or miss gender.

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        what is a singer? a runner? a painter? Do I have to win a marathon to be runner, or can I be a runner and run a mile a week at 5mph? If you see me running that mile, am I not “the runner over there?”

        Regarding your own freedom, if someone says “My name is Elizabeth, you can call me Liz, Lizzie, Liza, Eliza… just not Beth please,” and you go “Ok BETH.” - yeah, that’s your freedom to do that, you’re still an asshole.

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        And everyone else has the right to think you’re a prick and cut you out of their lives.

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          I actually am, but I don’t like the entire woke agenda nowadays.

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              That we must comply with everybody’s whims and thus let men beat women in female categories of sports, allow doctors to maim kids just because they think they’re trans, and a lot of similar crap.

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                  No, I meant the Algerian boxer, specifically. But there should be limits to prevent freaks from wreaking havoc.

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                So you think trans people are icky and don’t understand what’s going on.

                Have you ever talked to a trans person? You should try educating yourself on the subject instead of rejecting a whole group of people based on vague feelings. There are no men in women’s sports and children are not usually subject to gender affirming surgery.

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                  You should try educating yourself on the subject instead of rejecting a whole group of people based on vague feelings.

                  Man, telling people what to do should be illegal. You should study more because I said so.

                  There are no men in women’s sports and children are not usually subject to gender affirming surgery.

                  Bro, you should read your own comments before blatantly lying.

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        No doubt. People do this shit even without rape plans. Either they think it’s funny or someone pissed them off so they decided to ruin their night or perhaps their life.

        My friend got dosed in Denver and ended up with multiple charges due to his behavior. He had two drinks at a bar, left, then did insane things that can’t be explained by just being shitfaced.

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          No doubt. People do this shit even without rape plans. Either they think it’s funny or someone pissed them off so they decided to ruin their night or perhaps their life.

          Don’t forget mugging them

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      3 days ago

      Whenever you next attend a wedding, watch how many women take their drinks with them to the dance floor. That’s the threat environment women live in every day

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      In logic, finding a case where a statement isn’t true is a very common and correct way to disprove that statement. So the proposition that “a woman has xx chromosomes and is born with a vagina”, would actually be logically disproved by the counter-examples you bring up.

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      I mean, thats a very naive opinion formed on outdated knowledge of the human biology. I’d be happy to share resources with you if you actually want to learn.

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      Thanks, I do try my hardest to act the insufferable cunt on here, so seeing people act like my reply was somehow clever and original (it wasn’t, I’ve just seen it used before) was a bit of a surprise.