So I moved back to my city after 7 years where my family lives.

It’s been 2 years but I never really enjoyed people here. Mostly people I met were from my previous circles, family, school friends and their partners.

I always thought something was off and maybe over time I will figure things out but it was just not happening.

Yesterday I went to dinner with my partners friends and damn it was whole different vibe. As if it’s a different culture. I really enjoyed talking and was genuinely interested in next meeting.

Resparked my joy in meeting people and I guess I was with wrong people and there are people who are out there who vibe match with me but it’s so hard to find them.

  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Yes, but also sometimes the more you try the worse it gets.

    If I don’t try to date, for example, I won’t get a partner. OK, but I also won’t have drinks thrown in my face, be screamed at, and be harassed by stalkers. All of which I have had to deal with in dating and was all so intensely negative I’m not sure the potential positive is worth it. I can’t even talk about my hobbies, my history, on a date anymore in 2025 without being told what a stupid loser piece of shit I am. People are insane. 10 years ago I could talk about all that stuff and people thought it was cool.

    society has become way more not just anti-social, but openly hostile to strangers. in 2015 I never had anyone scream at me on a date. even if they didn’t like me they were just chill and polite about it. Now if they don’t like you they flip out at you, call you names, and sometimes threaten you.

    Same is true of many social spaces and groups I used to hang out with. Used to be very laid back. Now it is very hostile to anyone who is a ‘non believer’ of whatever dogma the space is espousing.